Mom’s Birthday Dinner
Posted on October 3, 2004 by Ching under Family.
Mom’s birthday dinner was a lot of fun. Ray came. So I guess he and Jen are back together. The dinner conversation was pretty easy. Jen and I split the bill in half. It was $128 and she gave me $60, which I told her was sufficient. We let her take home all the leftovers. She needs to eat she’s too skinny.
Anyway, since mom seemed to be in a good mood I sprung the hole let’s-have-a-halloween-costume-party-at-your-house-for-my-birthday idea. I think she’s actually considering it. We were talking about what everyone would be for halloween. I’m going to be Lara Croft. I’m going to see if Brian’s mom can French braid my hair. Jen wants to be a mermaid and she would like for Ray to be a pirate. But Ray wants to be a golfer (complete with knee-high socks and bloomers) which is totally appropriate since he loves to golf and dreams of going pro one day. As Jen is drinking her Midori sour dad goes, “I’m going to be a mammogram machine!” We all bust up laughing! Jen almost spits her drink. Brian goes eggs him on by saying that he’d even wear a sign that say “Free Breast Exams.”
If this happens, I’m definitely posting pictures.
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VB Exam
Posted on September 28, 2004 by Ching under School.
I totally kicked ass on my VB exam. I thought I did poorly but I got a 102 out of 100! I missed one of the multiple choice questions but I got both of the bonus questions right. Go me.
We got our second assignment back today as well. I got a 50 out of 50 on it. There were minor flaws in the code but he didn’t dock me. I’m not complaining.
The average for the exam was 69 so he offered us the opportunity of earning bonus points. He passed out these pop quizzes and told us to be sure and follow all of the instructions and at the end of three minutes he would collect them all back. After he collected the quizzes, he asked if anyone wrote only their name and nothing else. Everyone answered the three questions on the sheet, I guess, because no one said anything. You should’ve seen the look on everyone’s faces when he said that’s all that we were supposed to do. It was a Kodak moment! I had to bust up laughing. Of course, it didn’t really harm me any because I got a good score. But if I was someone who really needed the five extra points, I guess I would be pretty upset.
Anyway, I talked Brian into taking me to Abuelo’s to celebrate my good fortune! We have no money but good exam scores are a good reason to celebrate so we’re going to celebrate anyway!
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To Blog or Not to Blog
Posted on September 26, 2004 by Ching under Life.
“So here’s my question for you since you are now a supervisor/manager at work: Aren’t you worried that the “higher-ups” in the company might find out about your blog? Do you worry that they won’t approve of the sexual content being discussed by someone who is supposed to represent the company? Would you stop your blog if they gave you an ultimatum? It could happen…I’ve heard of people being fired over their blogs. You make one enemy at work and if they know about your site, they could raise a fuss about it. Just wanted your thoughts about it.” ~ Julie
I think this one warrants posting an actual reply, rather than just posting another comment. I truly appreciate your concern. And yes, I have heard of lots of people who have been fired from their jobs because of their blogs. Dooce (aka Heather Armstrong), one of the most awesome women on the web, is a classic example of this.
That’s kind of the short version of her story. There’s a longer, more entertaining version but I can’t find it since she has redesigned her website.
The content of this blog could use a little cleaning up, I suppose. But then if my parents and Brian’s parents haven’t objected, I guess I haven’t pushed the envelope far enough.
As far as the internet goes, I’m just a fictional creation. I am merely an internet persona whose life some people choose to read about occasionally. I do not think myself as someone who represents the company that I work for (we have an official media spokesperson for that and that’s what they get paid to do).
But I realize that even though I may not think that I represent the company, other people will think or feel that way and I cannot stop them from doing so. I have not and will never mention where I work exactly for this reason.
So, anyway, if you know where I work, just keep it to yourself please. I’d really appreciate it. Thanks! I have this weird feeling that you know me in real life because you know that a lot of people hate me. Ugh. This is another blog entry in itself. I mean, I really have issue with this because I’ve always thought of myself as someone that everyone liked and got along well with, not someone that people would hate.
But I digress.. The things I do in my personal life, the things I fantasize about (muse, dream up, imagine, concoct) are exactly that.. My personal life/musings/dreams/fantasies/imaginings. I can guarantee you that ex-president Bill Clinton has even greater sexual perversions which are far from imaginary and the whole nation still respects him as a person. I guess he is representative of our sexually perverse country.
I’ve always kept a journal or diary of one shape or another since I learned how to write. It’s part of who I am. Now that I’ve graduated into a more public forum for my thoughts, I guess, things can get a little complicated.
If I was made to choose between my job and my blog, however unreasonable that seems to someone who is as liberal and free-thinking as I am, I would choose my job. That’s a no-brainer! We all need to eat and we all have bills to pay. But I can guarantee you this: you’ll find me writing in some uncharted corner of the web under an alias or pseudonym. I’ll still blog. I’ll just have to be more secretive about my real identity in the future. =)
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Protected: XBOX or Sex
Posted on September 26, 2004 by Ching under Sex.
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Weddings
Posted on September 25, 2004 by Ching under Life.
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Anyway, Brian and I sometimes talk about other couples’ infidelities and adulterous activities. Not so much to gossip but to assess our own feelings about the subject. He is of the belief most people cheat on their significant others because of factors such as loneliness, boredom and overall unhappiness with their present relationship. I, on the other had, believe that (although the factors that he has described play a part) opportunity is the key factor. I think that if there is no opportunity for unfaithfulness, despite unfathomable loneliess, the most extreme case of boredom and infinite misery, infidelity cannot occur. And in the same way, if the opportunity exists, even if the other conditions do not exist, there is a posibility for infidelity.
He didn’t seem quite convinced (and if you knew my history of BS, out-of-this-world hypotheses then you’d understand his skepticism) so I told him that I would do some research to prove that I am correct. He had this worried look on his face so I had to reassure him that I was merely looking up the subject in Google and not doing any actual field research (his main concern). Again, if you knew the type of person that I am, this may be a concern for you too. Just kidding.
I haven’t found difinitive research on my exact hypothesis. Either I’m not searching hard enough or it doesn’t exist. To clarify, what I am looking for is research that shows the correlation between opportunity and actual infidelity. I haven’t found it, so maybe I’ll just have to take it upon myself to conduct my own research and publish my findings? I’ll have to put this on my list of things to do before I die (including coming up with a standardized sex toys power measuring system that can be posted on the package; an idea I came up with almost two years ago but I’ve yet to actually do anything about).
At any rate, through the course of doing my research, I encountered other bits of information that I couldn’t help but disagree with. For instance, it’s commonly believed that women stray for emotional factors and men stray for sexual/physical reasons. I think an equal number of men and women stray for both reasons. Women are just as likely to stray for sexual/physical reasons and men are just as likely to stray in order to satisfy emotional needs that are not being satisfied by their current partners. In fact, some research has shown that more and more men cheat on their spouses to find emotional intimacy (something that I didn’t think classified as infidelity before, but I now realize is a form of being unfaithful much like having sexual relations outside your marriage would be) rather than just to satisfy their libido. And the opposite is true for women. Women nowadays are merely looking to satisfy their sexual needs and are less interested in establishing an emotional extra-marital relationship.
But what I’m really curious about is how this relates to my marriage. I would consider my relationship with Brian to be a healthy one. He is my best friend in the whole wide world. He loves me unconditionally. We enjoy doing the same activities and we are compatible in every way. Granted he has his short-comings (as I do as well) but he will do everything in his power to satisfy my every need and desire (except for my more unreasonable fetishes; but then there are things that I cannot provide to him also). The more that I research the subject and examine my own relationship with my husband, the more I realize how much I have taken for granted.
Brian may not be handy around the house. He may not mow the lawn as frequently as he should. He may be lazy.. But there are so many other wonderful things that he does. He’s always sensitive to my feelings and would never ever dream of saying anything that would hurt me. He’s always been a true gentleman who treats me like a queen no matter where we are. He will do things that he doesn’t like (ie dancing) just to make me happy. He always makes me feel good, no matter how crappy I look or feel. He takes care of me when I’m sick and bitchy. He endures the verbal abuse when I’ve had a bad day. He’s always ready to make love when I need it and he understands when I’m not in the mood. He tries to include me in decisions (no matter how big or small). He tries to include me in activities, even things that I have no interest in, just so I don’t feel left out. The list is endless. I could go on forever. And it’s because of this that I have come to realize that a bond like ours renders infidelity impossible. Therefore I shouldn’t waste my time researching what causes infidelity because it is pointless. Instead, I should focus more on the glorious, wonderful aspects of my own relationship and find a way to share it with others. If people could experience the same happiness in their own relationships, then there would be no infidelity and, as a result, no need to even study the subject.