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Spending Quality Time with Brian
Posted on January 8, 2012 by Ching under Relationship.
We started our day with chocolate-iced cinnamon rolls. It was a sweet start to a sweet day.
I originally planned on going to both Group Power and Zumba, but then I figured hanging out with Brian while we leisurely had our cinnamon rolls for breakfast would be much more fulfilling (despite how bad it is for our diet). Anyway, I could still get my workout in Zumba.
After breakfast it was time for the gym. Brian did his own workout while I was doing Zumba. Steph borrowed him to spot her for a bit after class. Brian and I just met up at the standing ab workout station (I’m not sure what it’s formally called) when they were finished. I did a few upright leg lifts and knee lifts already, but I had to do some more when he finally came over just to prove that I could really do them. I think I’m improving because I actually did several today as opposed to my first try at Gina Ann and Coley’s basement when I only did five. I think I’m going to make that part of my regular workout.
We tried to go bowling after a quick lunch at home, but they had some kind of event at Northrock Lanes. The lady told us to come back at 4 pm. Luckily, we don’t live too far away. I decided to catch up on my House Hunters and House Hunters International recorded shows while Brian did some work. We also had just enough time for a little something-something before it was time to go back to the bowling alley.
Because we are highly competitive people, we decided to make a wager. We usually wager for sexual favors; however, as we had just gotten done with it, neither of us were thinking about sex. I couldn’t think of anything, so it was Brian who came up with our bet this time. He wagered blender hand-washing duties for the rest of the month. I accepted. It’s not fun so we both found it to be a bet worth winning.
It was kind of an off day for me, but Brian was off too so I still won. Brian’s scores were 124, 129 and 136 respectively. Mine were 139, 158 and 167. I usually get better as I get warmed up so I’m thinking had we done five games, I might have been able to bowl a 200-game today. We usually have to calculate who had the better average because our matches are pretty close but, having won all three games, it was a clean sweep. Brian averaged about 130 compared to my 155, which is actually really close to my normal average when I used to bowl in a league over ten years ago. I’m not sure what Brian’s normal average is as I don’t think he ever bowled in a league before. I’m thinking about joining a bowling league again. Although, Brian thinks that I’m too busy as it is. When would I find the time for a league? I’m sure I could find the time if I really wanted to.
After bowling, Brian did some more work before playing video games. I did some work while he played video games. After he got gaming out of his system and I was tired of working, we decided to watch a movie on Netflix. Tonight’s pick was Tangled
Brian was like, “What do you mean? We just got done watching a movie together. We had several hours of quality time today.”
“You need to turn off the TV and sit here and just talk to me. That’s quality time. No TV, no movie, no computer, no phone, no distractions. Just you and me. What time is it now?” I asked.
“Ten forty six,” Brian replied.
“Alright,” I said. “You’re going to give 14 minutes of nonstop quality time starting right now.” Brian and I both started laughing hysterically because what I said came off completely absurd. Who times their quality time?
After we regained our composure he said, “That’s messed up. Your definition of quality time is a lot different than normal people. To normal people, what we just did, watching a movie together, that would qualify as quality time.”
“Just because we’re in the same room together doesn’t mean we’re spending quality time,” I said. “We were watching a movie. You were paying attention to the movie. I was paying attention to the movie. Neither of us were paying attention to one another. That’s why this world is so messed up. Couples think that just because they’re doing stuff together, they’re spending quality time. If you’re there but your mind is elsewhere, that’s not quality time. Like when we’re in the car and you’re driving and I’m trying to play Words and we’re trying to have a conversation with one another, that’s not quality time. When we’re sitting in bed and we’re both on the computer and one of us is trying to have a conversation with the other, that’s not quality time. If we’re hanging out, but either you or I am really thinking of work or all the things that I have to do later or the next day, that’s not quality time. I would rather have ten minutes of good, uninterrupted quality time with you each day than several hours of all that fake quality time.”
Brian was like, “So does debating about quality time count as quality time?” We both laughed again. Mind you, we were both sitting on the loveseat with Brian laying on me so that I could rub his head and earlobes while this conversation was going on.
I said, “Yes. Debating about quality time counts as quality time. Although, I’m not sure that I’m getting as good of a quality time as you are because you’re thinking about how good your head rub feels instead of thinking of me. Maybe we should ban head rubs from our quality time in the future?” LOL. I was just kidding. Head rubs and earlobe rubs are always going to be part of our quality time. How else could I ever get Brian to stay put? We actually went about ten minutes over on our quality time, but it was well worth it.
I had at least thirty minutes of real, honest-to-goodness quality time with Brian tonight. What about you? Did you get to spend some quality time with your loved-ones today? Was it more like Brian’s idea of quality time or was it more like mine? What is your definition of quality time?
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Anniversary Weekend
Posted on August 17, 2004 by Ching under Life, Movies, Relationship.
Here’s a play-by-play of our anniversary weekend as promised..
We wake up pretty early on Saturday to make our 9 AM appointment at Healing Waters for our couples massage. It was really relaxing up until it was time to pay. Our damage? $200 or so because I got talked into buying this pain relief cream that is $33 an ounce. Ouch!
While there, I went ahead and scheduled an appointment for my Brazillian bikini wax. The lady wanted to schedule me for next Saturday, but I was like whoa! I need at least two to three weeks. I’m not quite ready. For those who are not privy to these things, the hair has to be a least 1/4″ long in order for the wax and strips to be able to grasp it. If it’s too short, it’s just pointless.
She schedules me for September 11. How perfect! I told Brian, this will be my own personal contribution to the anti-terrorism cause. Too bad it’s not tax deductible. Okay, bad joke.
Anyway, after Healing Waters we stop by QuikTrip for some gas and sodas, and then we were off to Country Club Plaza. Brian got this bug up his butt a third of the way down there and he decides to let me drive. As you all know, I don’t know how to drive stick shift so I was naturally very nervous. We had to switch back when we ran into some road construction because we were afraid that I would be unable to keep up with the sporatic up-shifting and down-shifting. Through this whole process we miss our Emporia exit. We end up going through Topeka to get to KC which is not only the more time consuming route but also the more expensive one because you have to pay toll while on the turnpike. I would have chalked it up to taking the scenic route but there isn’t really much scenery to make up for the mishap.
Through my excellent navigation skills, I managed to get us from I-70 East to 169 South to 56/Shawnee Mission Parkway. I was going to have him take 635 according to the map, but it was closed so I had to improvise. Once we get to Shawnee Mission Parkway it was a piece of cake. We found Sheraton Suites, which is right on the edge of the Plaza, relatively easily. We arrived almost an hour later than anticipated (we would’ve arrived sooner had we not missed the correct exit) but we still arrived an hour before the official 3 PM check-in time.&nsbp; We take a chance and check-in, anyway. The awesome part? Our suite was ready.
Once we got to our room, I started unpacking. Of course, Brian was messing around. Sheraton Suites is rather family oriented. Brian and I came to this conclusion because they offer Nintendo on both TVs. Brian wanted to try it but, at $6.95 an hour, I had to put my foot down. We just had sex instead. And then we took a nap.
When we woke up around 5 PM Brian wanted to eat because it would be 9:30 PM before we could dine at Kona Grill. They were completely booked from 5:30 PM to 9:30 PM so the earliest that we could make our reservations for was 9:30 PM. We had some room service, then changed to go swim. Most of the time was actually spent in the whirlpool because Brian didn’t like the cold water and would rather cook in the jacuzzi. After wards, we came back to our room to take a shower and have more sex.
As planned, we had dinner at Kona Grill and then left to go to The Cheesecake Factory for our dessert. The funny part was that as we were leaving Kona, we always go through the circular door together and this official-looking dude followed right behind us and reprimanded us for going at the same time. He said that we must enter or exit the revolving door only one at a time next time. And then he promptly tells us that he is joking. Gullible me totally believed him. Brian couldn’t care less. We had a good laugh about it though. That was all one could do because he was tall and might’ve kicked our ass if we didn’t find his prank funny. Anyway, it probably made his day that his joke finally worked on someone.
The Cheesecake Factory was great except they gave me tiramisu cheesecake instead of regular tiramisu. We couldn’t fault them, though, because we weren’t specific and it was an easy assumption to make. Of course, they would assume I wanted the cheesecake kind. That is, after all, their specialty.
While walking back to the hotel we passed by Latté Land again. The coffee shop always cracks me up because it’s where all the bikers hang out at the Plaza and Brian and I have fondly dubbed it the yuppie biker bar. Across the street at Classic Cup Sidewalk Cafe were three DeLoreans done up like the car in Back to the Future. It was pretty cool so we felt compelled to cross the street and take some pictures.
We finally made it back to the hotel and decided to make it an early night. No sex this time because I had quite a bit to drink during our dining extravaganza and liquor always makes me kind of sluggish and sleepy.
The next day we woke up, packed and got ready. We checked out early and decided to have lunch at Houston’s. Best fries you will ever find anywhere. Then we hit Armani Exchange (favorite store) for some shopping. Got a couple of tops for me and a micro-cord blazer for Brian. It’s a nice one that we got on sale for $99.99, not a bad deal at all. I wanted to hit bebe, but Brian convinced me that the displays were gaudy so we didn’t go in. Only Armani Exchange benefited from our moolah during our abbreviated shopping excursion. Such a shame too because it was the final day of the Missouri tax-free week. We could’ve totally taken advantage!
The way home was much less complicated than the way up. There is no way to get lost. I was so confident that Brian had a handle on things that I just took a nap. When we arrived in Wichita, we stopped by his parents’ house to pick up our mail and then we went to see Alien vs. Predator. How could I be a bad wife when I agree to watch AVP as our anniversary movie, even though Little Black Book is showing. All I gotta say is that Brian better recognize all these compromises because I will collect one day!
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Valentines Day 2004
Posted on February 15, 2004 by Ching under Life, Relationship.
We had a truly eventful Valentine’s Day weekend this year. The festivities began on Friday night when Brian took me to Fingers for salsa night. I didn’t drink much but we think it reacted with the antibiotics I just finished taking the day before. I ended up puking my brains out in the middle of the night and peeing all over Brian’s feet. Picture the two of us buck naked in the bathroom, he’s holding me as I’m vomitting and I guess I just lost control of my “other” bodily function and started peeing. As a reflex, Brian took the only things that were close at hand which happened to be a couple of robes (my robes, mind you) hanging in the bathroom to sop up the wetness. I guess it’s my pee on my robes so I shouldn’t complain. I should just be grateful that he stayed there with me instead of saying “Fuck this,” and leaving me to puke and clean up by myself.
It was already two o’clock in the afternoon when we got up the next day. We decided to have a late lunch at Red Rock (my favorite restaurant now). Remember the hellacious time we had getting in last year? This year, we were smart and got there about ten minutes before they opened. We were actually the first ones seated! It was awesome! Half an hour into our five course meal, people were already piling in. By the time four o’clock rolled around the wait was already an hour to an hour and a half. We were so proud of ourselves!
After lunch we walked off our meal by roaming around the mall. Of course, it was horrible. It felt like Christmas because everyone was doing their last minute shopping for Valentine’s Day gifts. Got some socks at Lady Footlocker, a couple of DVDs from Suncoast, and some blouses at Express. Next stop: home.
We hung out at the house for a while because we had an hour or so to kill before we had to meet Brian’s parents at 13th Ave Warren. The four of us watched the 10 PM balcony showing of 50 First Dates. It was a sold out show because of all of the couples on the movie part of their dates. They actually made an announcement below for all the people to move and sit closer together so that they could fit everyone in the theater. It’s times like that when we are really grateful that we hardly ever watch movies from the cheap seats anymore. I like the idea of reserved seats and personally think that all theater auditoriums should be done that way.
Today we all met at Wal-Mart for some portraits. We got 7 poses and a ton of pictures for just a little over $150. You can’t beat that deal! I think my senior portraits were almost $500 after all was said and done and that was back in 1995 so I was really impressed. Mom and dad were generous enough to include a picture of Brian and me just by ourselves. We get three 8 X 10s and a variety of other sizes. We were pretty stoked about that.
Afterwards, mom and dad treated the six of us (Jason and Jen came to dinner with us also) to dinner at Red Lobster. I wasn’t feeling well but it was still really yummy! I had the LobsterChops and ate every little bit of it so I didn’t have any room for desert. Actually, after the fried calamari appetizer, some of their signature bread and a couple of bites of my salad, I was already pretty full so I’m not sure how I managed to eat all of my entree.
Next week is the last part of our Valentine’s week celebration. Brian got us a couple’s massage at Healing Waters. We are both really looking forward to it. We’ve gotten full-body massages before (usually at Sveta’s because it’s closer to our house) but never in the same room together. A couple’s massage is actually pretty exciting.
You’re probably wondering, with all of the things that Brian has done for us, what my end of the Valentine’s Day gift-giving is like. For our Valentine’s this year, I got us a new featherbed from Eddie Bauer (I got it during the White Sale so we actually got it a few weeks ago and we’ve been sleeping on it) because our four-year-old one is totally worn out, some new featherbed protectors and his-n-hers matching Nike ID Shox NZ. For just Brian, I got an orange long-sleeved waffle tee from Abercrombie & Fitch, an orange hoodie sweatshirt to match it from Hollister, and a pair of Eddie Bauer flannel-lined carpenter pants.
Here are some pictures of our personalized Shox..
The last two pictures are of Brian’s new computer. He has a dual monitor system hooked up now. I am super jealous! However, he was generous enough to give me a new 19″ monitor and he’s donating 20 GBs of his 120 GB hard-drive space to me so that we each have 100 GBs (mine is only 80 GB) so I really have no room to complain. That doesn’t keep me from being jealous, though..
He has decided to give his old computer to his grandparents because theirs is broken. Isn’t that nice of him?
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Happy Anniversary to Us
Posted on August 10, 2003 by Ching under Relationship.
Happy anniversary to us! Yay!
We started our anniversary celebration at by having dinner at Red Rock. Brian wanted to go to Cibola, but I talked him out of it because we would’ve spent $100 or so on dinner alone and I figured we should be more practical than that. Red Rock was great this time around because even though it was a Saturday night, with our call-ahead, the wait was less than ten minutes. That was a pleasant surprise because, although we hoped for a short wait time, we expected to wait longer for a table. Our waiter was great. They’re always very nice at Red Rock but he was super friendly too.
After dinner Brian took me to Copa Cabana for some Latin music. We had a lot of fun dancing together. We didn’t care what anyone else thought, we ignored everyone else and just enjoyed each other’s company. When we had enough humiliating ourselves on the dance floor of Copa, we headed to America’s Pub in Old Town.
I didn’t think I was intoxicated but Brian would say otherwise. He said that our encounter with the doorman at America’s Pub was a prime example of this. All I did was point out that our last names are the same on our driver’s licenses because we are married as the doorman was holding our IDs up to the light side by side to inspect them closer. He’s like, “Newlyweds?” We’re like, “No. First anniversary!”
Anyway, we did a lot of stuff yesterday to commemorate our anniversary which I will omit for the sake of decency. Just know that we had loads of fun! I can’t wait until next year!
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