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Spending Quality Time with Brian

Posted on January 8, 2012 by under Relationship.    


We started our day with chocolate-iced cinnamon rolls. It was a sweet start to a sweet day.

I originally planned on going to both Group Power and Zumba, but then I figured hanging out with Brian while we leisurely had our cinnamon rolls for breakfast would be much more fulfilling (despite how bad it is for our diet). Anyway, I could still get my workout in Zumba.

After breakfast it was time for the gym. Brian did his own workout while I was doing Zumba. Steph borrowed him to spot her for a bit after class. Brian and I just met up at the standing ab workout station (I’m not sure what it’s formally called) when they were finished. I did a few upright leg lifts and knee lifts already, but I had to do some more when he finally came over just to prove that I could really do them. I think I’m improving because I actually did several today as opposed to my first try at Gina Ann and Coley’s basement when I only did five. I think I’m going to make that part of my regular workout.

We tried to go bowling after a quick lunch at home, but they had some kind of event at Northrock Lanes. The lady told us to come back at 4 pm. Luckily, we don’t live too far away. I decided to catch up on my House Hunters and House Hunters International recorded shows while Brian did some work. We also had just enough time for a little something-something before it was time to go back to the bowling alley.

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Because we are highly competitive people, we decided to make a wager. We usually wager for sexual favors; however, as we had just gotten done with it, neither of us were thinking about sex. I couldn’t think of anything, so it was Brian who came up with our bet this time. He wagered blender hand-washing duties for the rest of the month. I accepted. It’s not fun so we both found it to be a bet worth winning.

It was kind of an off day for me, but Brian was off too so I still won. Brian’s scores were 124, 129 and 136 respectively. Mine were 139, 158 and 167. I usually get better as I get warmed up so I’m thinking had we done five games, I might have been able to bowl a 200-game today. We usually have to calculate who had the better average because our matches are pretty close but, having won all three games, it was a clean sweep. Brian averaged about 130 compared to my 155, which is actually really close to my normal average when I used to bowl in a league over ten years ago. I’m not sure what Brian’s normal average is as I don’t think he ever bowled in a league before. I’m thinking about joining a bowling league again. Although, Brian thinks that I’m too busy as it is. When would I find the time for a league? I’m sure I could find the time if I really wanted to.

After bowling, Brian did some more work before playing video games. I did some work while he played video games. After he got gaming out of his system and I was tired of working, we decided to watch a movie on Netflix. Tonight’s pick was Tangled. It was quite good actually. After our movie, I demanded some quality time.

Brian was like, “What do you mean? We just got done watching a movie together. We had several hours of quality time today.”

“You need to turn off the TV and sit here and just talk to me. That’s quality time. No TV, no movie, no computer, no phone, no distractions. Just you and me. What time is it now?” I asked.

“Ten forty six,” Brian replied.

“Alright,” I said. “You’re going to give 14 minutes of nonstop quality time starting right now.” Brian and I both started laughing hysterically because what I said came off completely absurd. Who times their quality time?

After we regained our composure he said, “That’s messed up. Your definition of quality time is a lot different than normal people. To normal people, what we just did, watching a movie together, that would qualify as quality time.”

“Just because we’re in the same room together doesn’t mean we’re spending quality time,” I said. “We were watching a movie. You were paying attention to the movie. I was paying attention to the movie. Neither of us were paying attention to one another. That’s why this world is so messed up. Couples think that just because they’re doing stuff together, they’re spending quality time. If you’re there but your mind is elsewhere, that’s not quality time. Like when we’re in the car and you’re driving and I’m trying to play Words and we’re trying to have a conversation with one another, that’s not quality time. When we’re sitting in bed and we’re both on the computer and one of us is trying to have a conversation with the other, that’s not quality time. If we’re hanging out, but either you or I am really thinking of work or all the things that I have to do later or the next day, that’s not quality time. I would rather have ten minutes of good, uninterrupted quality time with you each day than several hours of all that fake quality time.”

Brian was like, “So does debating about quality time count as quality time?” We both laughed again. Mind you, we were both sitting on the loveseat with Brian laying on me so that I could rub his head and earlobes while this conversation was going on.

I said, “Yes. Debating about quality time counts as quality time. Although, I’m not sure that I’m getting as good of a quality time as you are because you’re thinking about how good your head rub feels instead of thinking of me. Maybe we should ban head rubs from our quality time in the future?” LOL. I was just kidding. Head rubs and earlobe rubs are always going to be part of our quality time. How else could I ever get Brian to stay put? We actually went about ten minutes over on our quality time, but it was well worth it.

I had at least thirty minutes of real, honest-to-goodness quality time with Brian tonight. What about you? Did you get to spend some quality time with your loved-ones today? Was it more like Brian’s idea of quality time or was it more like mine? What is your definition of quality time?

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