Sex and the City
Posted on January 4, 2007 by Ching under Life.
I’ve been watching Sex and the City
Anyway, I’m not sure what episode sparked the conversation but Brian and I got to talking about the things we’ve given up since being together. He asked me the question first. I couldn’t think of anything so I just said “Why?” He said he just wondered because of the show. So I asked him what he misses of all the things he’d given up since we’ve been together. He said smoking. I don’t think that really counts. I never thought he gave up smoking for me. He gave up smoking because he had oral surgery. Brian countered that he gave up smoking because I had said that I would never kiss a smoker. He said he could have returned to smoking after the oral surgey if he chose to. He still misses smoking from time to time but has never reverted back.
Then it was my turn to share. Frankly, I couldn’t really think of anything. Brian and I decided that’s probably what makes our bond so strong. Unlike other couples who have had to make major compromises in order to be together, we really haven’t had to change or give up anything. We just fit. So almost eight years later, we still do.
Of course, not to be outdone, I had to come up with something. I said, “I miss being thin.” Okay, so I wasn’t really thin but I was little. I miss it. Though I don’t think it’s completely fair to say that I gave that up to be with Brian. It’s just something that seems to happen when people are in stable, comfortable relationships.
Why is it that long-term relationships tend to make people gain weight? It seems like we find ourselves in a relationship we tend to become complacent. Is it because we know that no matter how much weight we gain our loved ones will always love us regardless? It takes a lot of self-discipline to maintain your current weight (or lose weight) despite the comforts of unconditional love.
Brian says that people who are heavier are happier. You know the really happy couples because they are comfortable enough not to care about superficial things. I always thought that he was just saying that to make me feel better about having gained thirty pounds since we’ve been together. However, more and more I’m starting to think that he is probably right. I’m seeing more and more women gain weight after a year or so of being in stable relationships. Maybe there is actually something to this heavier equals happier thing?
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Jo Alonso on January 6, 2007
🙂 Mom