Can’t Keep Drama Away
Posted on January 14, 2006 by Ching under Life.
This week has been one crisis after another. On Monday I got a series of text messages from Jen. Here are some of the highlights.
Ashley slept with Ray
I can’t say I was surprised. Ray is, after all, a guy and Ashley is, after all, Ashley.
Ray says nothing happened
And then shortly after that I got another text saying..
Ray said he went home with her n she kissed him
And then this one..
She said she didn’t think we were friends n e more since you guys aren’t
So my text back to her was..
My dear sister, there are far too many desperate, promiscuous women out there. I cannot possibly befriend them all just to protect your boyfriend.
Jen found that funny but she said it wasn’t as funny as some of the others that she had sent out since the onset of this whole saga which she said were downright hilarious. Seriously, though, even if Jen and Ashley were BFF I think this would have happened anyway. Why? Because there is no friend code. I’m not going to list all the times that the friend code has been violated. There are too many examples to list. What gets me is that everyone is always so shocked when this happens. It doesn’t surprise me because I’ve stopped believing in it years ago. I figured that this outlook will save me from disappointments later in life. Oh, and get this. Jen sends me this text message also.
Ray said that Ashley told him you cheated on Bri. Is that true?
I don’t know why people create these messes and then try to drag other people into it. Just because they can’t get their relationships to work, they try to destroy the relationships of others. It really hurt my feelings that people were saying bad things about me. I was hurt because I had no idea what I had done to provoke the attack. I can see if I had said or done something to deserve it. I mean, I admit that I say mean things too when people make me mad. It’s human nature. But for my name to be dragged in mud when I haven’t even done anything just thoroughly upset me. Anyway, Brian advised me not to do anything. He said the best thing to do is just ignore it. He said they’re always doing these things and the smart thing to do is just not get sucked into it. But I figured that since I’m not part of this circle that I would be safe from it. How wrong I was! Sarah was one of the people present that night. She’s always been really nice to me. She even gave me some of her handmedowns. I really appreciate them too because I have been too broke to shop for clothes. I just could not believe that she would be part of this. I wanted to prove to myself that this wasn’t the case, that Sarah hadn’t said bad things about me so despite Brian’s advice, I sent Sarah a text message the next day. My text was rather confrontational in tone and I regret sending it now. It was something like “How could you say something like that? What have I ever done to you?” Kind of accusatory and I had to apologize for it after wards. She sent me the following response..
Well I didn’t say anything. I didn’t even talk to him. I’m sorry if someone else did.
I don’t really know any other people who would know Ray also, so I replied with something like “Are you saying it was all Ashley?” I might have said something like, “How could she do this?” or “I can’t believe she’d be that desperate.” So Sarah sends me this,
No she did not say anything either. I think Jen is trying to make an uncomfortable work environment because of what happened with Ray and Ashley kissing.
So I asked Jen about it and you know what Jen does? She tells Ray that I am doubting her so he needs to clear it up. So that very morning (I think all this exchange happened before eight o’clock) I got a voicemail message from Ray explaining that Ashley was the one who told him and that Sarah never said anything about it etc. This is the reason I had to apologize to Sarah for my first text message. I explained to her that Ray cleared it up and I was sorry for thinking that she had anything to do with it and hoped that she didn’t think I was upset with her. After that, I got the following text message..
I don’t want to get into this but I feel it’s very possible that Ray may be making it up. He also told Jen it was all Ashley’s fault about the kiss which I know is not true cause I witnessed it. As well as him calling her all night saying he and Jen were broke up. So he has some lies going on here.
I just replied to her that it doesn’t really matter. I just didn’t appreciate my name getting sullied by all the dirt throwing when it was a mess that I had nothing to do with at all. At this point it’s hard to say who is telling the truth and who isn’t. I’m already kind of a recluse because I have trust issues. For a while I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I’m just being too paranoid. When things like this happen, though, it makes me think that I am smart to be reclusive. You can’t trust anyone. What I’ve learned though, is even if you keep people at a distance they’ll still find ways to hurt you.
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