Weddings used to always make me cry.  Probably because I thought I would never ever experience that happiness for myself.  Now that I am married, I’m far less emotional about it.  Feel free to draw your own conclusions based on this statement.  I won’t have a fit.

Anyway, Brian and I sometimes talk about other couples’ infidelities and adulterous activities.  Not so much to gossip but to assess our own feelings about the subject.  He is of the belief most people cheat on their significant others because of factors such as loneliness, boredom and overall unhappiness with their present relationship.  I, on the other had, believe that (although the factors that he has described play a part) opportunity is the key factor.  I think that if there is no opportunity for unfaithfulness, despite unfathomable loneliess, the most extreme case of boredom and infinite misery, infidelity cannot occur.  And in the same way, if the opportunity exists, even if the other conditions do not exist, there is a posibility for infidelity.

He didn’t seem quite convinced (and if you knew my history of BS, out-of-this-world hypotheses then you’d understand his skepticism) so I told him that I would do some research to prove that I am correct.  He had this worried look on his face so I had to reassure him that I was merely looking up the subject in Google and not doing any actual field research (his main concern).  Again, if you knew the type of person that I am, this may be a concern for you too.  Just kidding.

I haven’t found difinitive research on my exact hypothesis.  Either I’m not searching hard enough or it doesn’t exist.  To clarify, what I am looking for is research that shows the correlation between opportunity and actual infidelity.  I haven’t found it, so maybe I’ll just have to take it upon myself to conduct my own research and publish my findings?  I’ll have to put this on my list of things to do before I die (including coming up with a standardized sex toys power measuring system that can be posted on the package; an idea I came up with almost two years ago but I’ve yet to actually do anything about).

At any rate, through the course of doing my research, I encountered other bits of information that I couldn’t help but disagree with.  For instance, it’s commonly believed that women stray for emotional factors and men stray for sexual/physical reasons.  I think an equal number of men and women stray for both reasons.  Women are just as likely to stray for sexual/physical reasons and men are just as likely to stray in order to satisfy emotional needs that are not being satisfied by their current partners.  In fact, some research has shown that more and more men cheat on their spouses to find emotional intimacy (something that I didn’t think classified as infidelity before, but I now realize is a form of being unfaithful much like having sexual relations outside your marriage would be) rather than just to satisfy their libido.  And the opposite is true for women.  Women nowadays are merely looking to satisfy their sexual needs and are less interested in establishing an emotional extra-marital relationship.

But what I’m really curious about is how this relates to my marriage.  I would consider my relationship with Brian to be a healthy one.  He is my best friend in the whole wide world.  He loves me unconditionally.  We enjoy doing the same activities and we are compatible in every way.  Granted he has his short-comings (as I do as well) but he will do everything in his power to satisfy my every need and desire (except for my more unreasonable fetishes; but then there are things that I cannot provide to him also).  The more that I research the subject and examine my own relationship with my husband, the more I realize how much I have taken for granted.

Brian may not be handy around the house.  He may not mow the lawn as frequently as he should.  He may be lazy..  But there are so many other wonderful things that he does.  He’s always sensitive to my feelings and would never ever dream of saying anything that would hurt me.  He’s always been a true gentleman who treats me like a queen no matter where we are.  He will do things that he doesn’t like (ie dancing) just to make me happy.  He always makes me feel good, no matter how crappy I look or feel.  He takes care of me when I’m sick and bitchy.  He endures the verbal abuse when I’ve had a bad day.  He’s always ready to make love when I need it and he understands when I’m not in the mood.  He tries to include me in decisions (no matter how big or small).  He tries to include me in activities, even things that I have no interest in, just so I don’t feel left out.  The list is endless.  I could go on forever.  And it’s because of this that I have come to realize that a bond like ours renders infidelity impossible.  Therefore I shouldn’t waste my time researching what causes infidelity because it is pointless.  Instead, I should focus more on the glorious, wonderful aspects of my own relationship and find a way to share it with others.  If people could experience the same happiness in their own relationships, then there would be no infidelity and, as a result, no need to even study the subject.

I agreed to go to Outback with Brian for dinner to make up for the horrible lunch experience he had at My Tho.  Check out his food vs. my food.  I’m a pig, I know.

Anyway, I’m off tomorrow so we’re just going to chill tonight.  We’ve got Mean Girls (I’m so enamoured by Lindsay Lohan’s boobs – but can you blame me?) to watch (via Netflix) and then Survivor as well as CSI.  Tomorrow, Brian and I are going to the zoo and then to the Wichita Art Museum (one of my favorite places that I haven’t been to in a while).  If it rains, we’re just going to the art museum instead.  Don’t know what we’re doing Friday night but I suspect we might end up watching Sky Captain because we wanted to see it on Sunday and didn’t.

Brian has to work on Saturday so I think I might catch up on homework.  I’m getting a little bit behind and really should keep up better.

Sunday is the day we are both looking forward to the most.  It’s the day we get our regular couples massage!  Afterwards, I get my face waxed which is probably counter intuitive because then I’m inflicting pain on myself after I get relaxed but I’m thinking that I might not feel anything at all doing it this way for the same reason, because I’m so relaxed.

I went ahead and canceled my bikini wax on October 2 because I won’t have enough hair.  I had them reschedule it for October 16.  It should be long enough by then.  The only crappy part is I hate having to let it grow.  Ugh.

Brian got these Circuit City gift cards for get more reward points and we decided that since he got an XBOX, I’m getting a personal/portable MP3 player.  Although, I told him that we’ll probably need to hold off until next payday because this weekend is kind of expensive because of our Healing Waters.

BTW, Brian just came in to the office and said that he no longer wants to see Sky Captain because he heard it sucked.  Maybe I can talk him into seeing either Wimbledon (because I love Paul Bettany) or The Forgotten.  Brian’s not really interested, though.  So we’ll see.

I’ll probably write a play-by-play on Saturday.  Until then..