{"id":9708,"date":"2013-05-05T09:31:10","date_gmt":"2013-05-05T14:31:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/brubakers.us\/?p=9708"},"modified":"2013-05-05T09:39:12","modified_gmt":"2013-05-05T14:39:12","slug":"be-a-role-model","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/?p=9708","title":{"rendered":"Be A Role Model"},"content":{"rendered":"<p align=\"center\"><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/farm9.staticflickr.com\/8419\/8709643351_30433848bd.jpg\" width=\"473\" height=\"218\" border=\"0\" alt=\"2008-09-06-hate-swearing\"><\/p>\n<p>As we were leaving the rec center after my Zumba class yesterday, we walked by a mom and four kids getting out of their car. All the kids were very young. None of them were older than ten. I think the oldest kid was probably seven or eight at best. One of the kids had apparently left one of the rear passenger side doors open. The mom yelled, &#8220;Shut the fucking door!&#8221; This is what drew our attention to them. We would not have noticed them otherwise.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;That explains a lot,&#8221; I told Brian once we got in the car. I guess people grow up hearing that sort of language. They hear it so much that it becomes natural and eventually becomes part of their vocabulary. It&#8217;s so pervasive in their language that they don&#8217;t even realize that they&#8217;re saying it. Once they find themselves in a professional environment, it becomes a challenge to change and speak in a different manner and every now and then they end up slipping back to their natural tendencies.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m lucky that English is not my native language. I didn&#8217;t learn to cuss in English because my parents didn&#8217;t say or use those words. Actually, they didn&#8217;t cuss in our native language either. Cussing just wasn&#8217;t a regular part of our vocabulary. I&#8217;ve learned to cuss over the years, but it still feels gawky to me. You know when I&#8217;m really angry because then I force myself to cuss. However, it comes out sounding so strange that I (and the person I&#8217;m yelling at) just end up laughing at my awkwardness. Yes, I&#8217;m an awkward cusser.<\/p>\n<p>Brian and I have no kids of our own so we have no business offering parenting advice. However, I can offer an observation. Actions speak louder than words so please be a role model to your children. You can preach against using foul language to your children but, if they grow up hearing you use foul language in everyday life and everyday conversations, chances are they&#8217;re going to follow your lead. Kids (or people in general) will often do as you do, not as you say.<\/p>\n<p>They say that our attitudes, values, and beliefs form at a very early age. Corrupt your children if you must, but at least make the early years count. Wait until they&#8217;re older to start cussing around them. LOL. They will thank you for your great example later.<\/p>\n<p>P.S. Thank you, mom and dad, for not teaching me to cuss.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As we were leaving the rec center after my Zumba class yesterday, we walked by a mom and four kids getting out of their car. All the kids were very young. None of them were older than ten. I think the oldest kid was probably seven or eight at best. One of the kids had [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1382,6,281],"tags":[339,2493,2099],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9708"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9708"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9708\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9715,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9708\/revisions\/9715"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9708"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9708"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9708"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}