{"id":7241,"date":"2012-01-08T00:20:25","date_gmt":"2012-01-08T06:20:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/brubakers.us\/?p=7241"},"modified":"2012-01-08T12:19:05","modified_gmt":"2012-01-08T18:19:05","slug":"spending-quality-time-with-brian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/?p=7241","title":{"rendered":"Spending Quality Time with Brian"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"float:left; padding-right:10px;\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/ching\/6657443243\/\"  title=\"393831_10151130787630643_835075642_22231907_1608087364_n by Ching, on Flickr\"><img src=\"http:\/\/farm8.staticflickr.com\/7014\/6657443243_931c952297.jpg\" width=\"275\" class=\"pic\" alt=\"393831_10151130787630643_835075642_22231907_1608087364_n\"><\/a><\/div>\n<p>We started our day with chocolate-iced cinnamon rolls.  It was a sweet start to a sweet day.  <\/p>\n<p>I originally planned on going to both Group Power and Zumba, but then I figured hanging out with Brian while we leisurely had our cinnamon rolls for breakfast would be much more fulfilling (despite how bad it is for our diet). Anyway, I could still get my workout in Zumba.<\/p>\n<p>After breakfast it was time for the gym.  Brian did his own workout while I was doing Zumba.  Steph borrowed him to spot her for a bit after class.  Brian and I just met up at the standing ab workout station (I&#8217;m not sure what it&#8217;s formally called) when they were finished.  I did a few upright leg lifts and knee lifts already, but I had to do some more when he finally came over just to prove that I could really do them.  I think I&#8217;m improving because I actually did several today as opposed to my first try at Gina Ann and Coley&#8217;s basement when I only did five.  I think I&#8217;m going to make that part of my regular workout.<\/p>\n<p>We tried to go bowling after a quick lunch at home, but they had some kind of event at Northrock Lanes.  The lady told us to come back at 4 pm.  Luckily, we don&#8217;t live too far away.  I decided to catch up on my House Hunters and House Hunters International recorded shows while Brian did some work.  We also had just enough time for a little something-something before it was time to go back to the bowling alley.<\/p>\n<p><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/ching\/6655251665\/\"  title=\"2012-01-07 15.55.48.jpg by Ching, on Flickr\"><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/farm8.staticflickr.com\/7001\/6655251665_19822cce8a.jpg\" class=\"pic\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" alt=\"2012-01-07 15.55.48.jpg\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Because we are highly competitive people, we decided to make a wager.  We usually wager for sexual favors; however, as we had just gotten done with it, neither of us were thinking about sex.  I couldn&#8217;t think of anything, so it was Brian who came up with our bet this time.  He wagered blender hand-washing duties for the rest of the month.  I accepted.  It&#8217;s not fun so we both found it to be a bet worth winning.<\/p>\n<p>It was kind of an off day for me, but Brian was off too so I still won.  Brian&#8217;s scores were 124, 129 and 136 respectively.  Mine were 139, 158 and 167.  I usually get better as I get warmed up so I&#8217;m thinking had we done five games, I might have been able to bowl a 200-game today.  We usually have to calculate who had the better average because our matches are pretty close but, having won all three games, it was a clean sweep.  Brian averaged about 130 compared to my 155, which is actually really close to my normal average when I used to bowl in a league over ten years ago.  I&#8217;m not sure what Brian&#8217;s normal average is as I don&#8217;t think he ever bowled in a league before.  I&#8217;m thinking about joining a bowling league again.  Although, Brian thinks that I&#8217;m too busy as it is.  When would I find the time for a league?  I&#8217;m sure I could find the time if I really wanted to.<\/p>\n<p>After bowling, Brian did some more work before playing video games. I did some work while he played video games.  After he got gaming out of his system and I was tired of working, we decided to watch a movie on Netflix.  Tonight&#8217;s pick was <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B004G600A4\/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&#038;tag=lifeafter-20&#038;linkCode=as2&#038;camp=1789&#038;creative=390957&#038;creativeASIN=B004G600A4\" >Tangled<\/a><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/www.assoc-amazon.com\/e\/ir?t=lifeafter-20&#038;l=as2&#038;o=1&#038;a=B004G600A4\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" style=\"border:none !important; margin:0px !important;\" \/>.  It was quite good actually.  After our movie, I demanded some quality time.<\/p>\n<p>Brian was like, &#8220;What do you mean?  We just got done watching a movie together.  We had several hours of quality time today.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You need to turn off the TV and sit here and just talk to me.  That&#8217;s quality time.  No TV, no movie, no computer, no phone, no distractions.  Just you and me. What time is it now?&#8221;  I asked.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Ten forty six,&#8221; Brian replied.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Alright,&#8221; I said. &#8220;You&#8217;re going to give 14 minutes of nonstop quality time starting right now.&#8221; Brian and I both started laughing hysterically because what I said came off completely absurd.  Who times their quality time?<\/p>\n<p>After we regained our composure he said, &#8220;That&#8217;s messed up.  Your definition of quality time is a lot different than normal people.  To normal people, what we just did, watching a movie together, that would qualify as quality time.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Just because we&#8217;re in the same room together doesn&#8217;t mean we&#8217;re spending quality time,&#8221; I said. &#8220;We were watching a movie.  You were paying attention to the movie.  I was paying attention to the movie.  Neither of us were paying attention to one another.  That&#8217;s why this world is so messed up.  Couples think that just because they&#8217;re doing stuff together, they&#8217;re spending quality time.  If you&#8217;re there but your mind is elsewhere, that&#8217;s not quality time.  Like when we&#8217;re in the car and you&#8217;re driving and I&#8217;m trying to play Words and we&#8217;re trying to have a conversation with one another, that&#8217;s not quality time.  When we&#8217;re sitting in bed and we&#8217;re both on the computer and one of us is trying to have a conversation with the other, that&#8217;s not quality time.  If we&#8217;re hanging out, but either you or I am really thinking of work or all the things that I have to do later or the next day, that&#8217;s not quality time.  I would rather have ten minutes of good, uninterrupted quality time with you each day than several hours of all that fake quality time.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Brian was like, &#8220;So does debating about quality time count as quality time?&#8221;  We both laughed again.  Mind you, we were both sitting on the loveseat with Brian laying on me so that I could rub his head and earlobes while this conversation was going on.<\/p>\n<p>I said, &#8220;Yes. Debating about quality time counts as quality time.  Although, I&#8217;m not sure that I&#8217;m getting as good of a quality time as you are because you&#8217;re thinking about how good your head rub feels instead of thinking of me. Maybe we should ban head rubs from our quality time in the future?&#8221;  LOL. I was just kidding. Head rubs and earlobe rubs are always going to be part of our quality time. How else could I ever get Brian to stay put?  We actually went about ten minutes over on our quality time, but it was well worth it.  <\/p>\n<p>I had at least thirty minutes of real, honest-to-goodness quality time with Brian tonight.  What about you?  Did you get to spend some quality time with your loved-ones today?  Was it more like Brian&#8217;s idea of quality time or was it more like mine?  <strong>What is your definition of quality time?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We started our day with chocolate-iced cinnamon rolls. It was a sweet start to a sweet day. I originally planned on going to both Group Power and Zumba, but then I figured hanging out with Brian while we leisurely had our cinnamon rolls for breakfast would be much more fulfilling (despite how bad it is [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1690],"tags":[83,1691,81,1692,1393,1043],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7241"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7241"}],"version-history":[{"count":22,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7241\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7264,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7241\/revisions\/7264"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7241"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7241"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7241"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}