{"id":1057,"date":"2008-08-31T13:52:05","date_gmt":"2008-08-31T13:52:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/brubakers.us\/?p=1057"},"modified":"2008-08-31T09:44:16","modified_gmt":"2008-08-31T15:44:16","slug":"joined-at-the-hip","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/?p=1057","title":{"rendered":"Joined at the Hip"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It always drives Brian crazy when I offer to do stuff for other people because it always ends up involving him because we are joined at the hip.  We do everything together.  So when I volunteer for things or when I want to do something that maybe isn&#8217;t that interesting to him, he inevitably ends up going albeit reluctantly.<\/p>\n<p>I remember that I wanted to go attend one of the wind farm hearings last year.  Boring, right?  I know, but I find that stuff interesting and I was really curious about it and I very much wanted to go.  Besides, the venue chosen for that hearing was the WSU Metroplex.  It&#8217;s not that far from where we live.  I managed to convince Brian to go.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, everyone pitied Brian for having to sit through the whole proceedings because of me.  While most spouses will take their partner to a nice dinner date, I take mine to a hearing about wind farms.  That&#8217;s just me.  I do have my moments, though.  I did take Brian to Jamaica for a special anniversary trip last year.  You kind of have to take the bad with the good.  <\/p>\n<p>Anyway, he was actually glad that he went with me to the hearing because there were some strange folks there.  They weren&#8217;t strange in a harmful sort of way, but Brian tends to be a little over protective.<\/p>\n<p>When I found out that Jan and her mom were thinking of either parking her car at the airport or taking a cab there, I offered to take her.  The fact that we would need to go at 4:30 AM wasn&#8217;t even a consideration.  I figured I could do this to help her so she doesn&#8217;t have to pay for cab fare or parking.  What I failed to recognize was in doing so, I was unintentionally volunteering not just my time but Brian&#8217;s as well because we are so inseparable.<\/p>\n<p>Brian is not a morning person at all and he is one who values his sleep a lot.  I knew I had to talk to him about it.  I explained that I did not expect him to go with me and that I offered to do this so I planned to take them on my own &#8212; without his help.  He tends to worry for no reason so I had reminded him that I have dropped him off and picked him up from the airport by myself (although, we ran into some friends on one occasion) a few times now and I have been fine.<\/p>\n<p>We had agreed this would be okay until Friday night.  I&#8217;m not sure what happened, but after poker Brian decided he wanted to go.  I reassured him that I had driven to the airport and back many times before, but he insisted on coming because I haven&#8217;t done it at four in the morning.  I&#8217;m thinking, if anything that would be a safer time to go actually because there are hardly any cars on the road.  I didn&#8217;t protest too much, though, because I do like his company.  I enjoy having him around.  We took them to the airport, came home, and went back to bed.  \ud83d\ude1b<\/p>\n<p>I just feel guilty sometimes because I think he&#8217;s not doing it out of want, but out of obligation.  Kind of like when I&#8217;ve convinced him to go dancing in the past.  He doesn&#8217;t enjoy it, but he goes because it&#8217;s what I want to do.  I just hope he doesn&#8217;t end up resenting me in the long run.  We&#8217;ve been together almost ten years now.  So far, so good.<\/p>\n<p>I did volunteer to work during the rate case hearing this week.  I told him he could sit this one out, though. Since I&#8217;ll be working, it will probably be extremely boring for him.  Even more so than the last one because on that one, I didn&#8217;t have to work and simply attended as a spectator.  We got to sit in the audience and enjoy that one together.  (Well, enjoy in my case.  Endure is probably the more appropriate word in Brian&#8217;s case.)  The plan is to just have him pick me up at the conclusion of the event.  We&#8217;ll see how well that works out. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It always drives Brian crazy when I offer to do stuff for other people because it always ends up involving him because we are joined at the hip. We do everything together. So when I volunteer for things or when I want to do something that maybe isn&#8217;t that interesting to him, he inevitably ends [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[10],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1057"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1057"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1057\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1064,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1057\/revisions\/1064"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1057"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1057"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brubakers.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1057"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}